Being called selfish is not usually considered a good thing. It brings to mind a person who is inconsiderate and self-absorbed. But does it have to be that way? The truth is being selfish, from time to time, can actually make you a better person.

Why am I writing about being selfish so close to Valentine’s Day, when thoughts are turned toward giving and showing other people you care? I know it may seem strange but I thought it was appropriate because when you prioritize your needs above others’, your health, goals and even relationships flourish.

As an adult, a mother, an employee, being selfish means that you are taking control of getting your needs met. It means you are self-focused and not egotistical.

Being Selfish Is Good For…

1. Your Well-Being

Taking some “me time” is very necessary especially if you have kids. Making sure that you are healthy by getting enough sleep, exercise and leisure time can help to manage stress levels and improve your overall mood and fitness. Instead of using all of your energy to help others, save some to make yourself feel good. You can’t give your best if you are sick and unhappy.

When you decide that you are worth the best, your self-esteem will soar and you will become a more confident person.

2. Your Success

When you put your well-being first, this can help you to reach your work goals. You need to be healthy and happy in order to be more productive. You will be less likely to feel disgruntled about work taking you away from something else you would rather be doing.

If you need to quit your job when a better opportunity is presented, then go on and do it. Don’t worry about how inconvenient it will be for others, if it takes you closer to your goals.

Selfish people are driven to succeed and will be less likely to give up on what they want. This is a necessary quality in a good leader. If you can’t look out for yourself, then you won’t be able to do it for others.

3. Relationships

If you’re selfish, you know exactly what you need from a relationship and what you are willing to give. This can ultimately lead to a more successful relationship, if you let the other person know upfront.

Taking care of your priorities first, also means you will be happier and less likely to take out your frustrations on your other half. You will be in a better position to help others and give them the love and care they need. Ever hear the saying, “Secure your own oxygen mask before helping someone else with their own”?

4. Happiness

Selfish people are happier because they spend more time doing what they want. They don’t worry about what people think all of the time. They are more focused and self-aware.

Don’t Feel Guilty About Saying No

How often have you turned down an invitation or said no to working late and then promptly apologized for it? Why is it that we always feel bad about saying the word “No”? Doing what’s best for yourself is not a something that should make you feel guilty.

Maybe you worry that people will judge you. They may think you are inconsiderate. You may just that think you don’t deserve to take the time out to do what you want. Be selfish and give yourself permission to treat yourself and enjoy the things you like to do every once in a while.